Counseling has been referred as the “talking cure.” A trained professional helps people deal more effectively with problems in daily living. The professional is there to help look at the situation objectively.
There are people who drive a car and hit a particular pot hole in the road. Then the next time the person, unaware, hits the same pot hole again; and maybe even again. This can be painful. In counseling, I help people gain self awareness, so that you do not hit the pot hole more than one time. In other words, I act as a mirror to help people look at themselves clearly so they do not repeat the same mistakes repeatedly. This is the process of gaining ‘personal self awareness’.
My counseling is strictly based on each individual situation. The counseling techniques fit the particular situation. Using my education and experience, I blend in many techniques to help reduce and alleviate the unpleasant issues. This then allows the individual to gain healthy controls and thus achieve inner peace, tranquility and happiness.
Whatever the issues are that are affecting the relationship; they cannot be resolved without healthy, sincere and honest communication. If a pilot and co-pilot do not have good communication, the passengers and the crew are in serious trouble. Communication starts with the ability to share true feelings from the heart. This is the way to become “Soul Mates.” I believe that if you want to have your family car run efficiently (and with gas prices high this is essential for the family budget) you would need good motor oil. Well, for couples to have a good healthy marriage, they must be able to talk to each other about their feelings. In conclusion, feelings are to a marriage, as motor oil is to a car.
I have designed a play therapy room where the child and adolescent feel safe and comfortable in their surroundings. This room allows a natural comfort zone. Feelings are expressed freely; enabling the resistance, anger and acting out behavior to become minimized while healthy behavior develops.
You have a tea kettle and you boil water in it. Why doesn’t the kettle explode? Because it has a valve that lets the air out. Many people (just like a clogged valve in the tea kettle) hold their feelings in, thus creating undo stress and anxiety. Counseling, the talking cure, allows you to express those feelings, so you release those negative feelings which will make you feel so much better and free. Also, what do you do before you cross the street? You look both ways, of course! Counseling helps you look ‘both ways’ in your own individual life, allowing for self awareness to grow as a person.
I tell my husband my feelings and he always wants to fix them! I am so frustrated—what can I do?
Dr. Hersh says: You and your husband need to learn how to communicate more effectively. This means he needs to understand that sometimes you just need to talk - get it off your chest, so to speak; to vent your feelings, and he just needs to listen, that’s all!
You and your husband will learn this in couples counseling.
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When parents are nurturing their infant child and the infant is cranky, the parent gently rocks their infant and says soothing words. This makes the infant feel peaceful and very tranquil. This is what ‘Hypnosis’ really does. By learning how to relax, your mind starts to feel tranquil and in a natural manner, this makes your anxiety and stress start to fade. For instance, if a brand new powerful car had 500 bricks in the trunk, that car won’t perform well, just like a person with stress and anxiety. Take the bricks out, or for a person, reduce the anxiety and stress; then that person can be the best they can be.
Absolutely not! This is because hypnosis teaches control. A person who is overeating or smoking a pack of cigarettes a day for many years does not have control. The food and the cigarettes are controlling them. Hypnosis teaches control. You do not go to sleep. You just feel very relaxed and your senses become sharper (smell, taste, feel, touch, see and hear). If there was a fire in the room, you would sense the fire even sooner during hypnosis and take appropriate action.
Stage hypnosis is just pure entertainment. It falls under the category of “Just Pretend” because no one can be made to do what they do not want to do, including something dangerous or illegal.
By reducing the stress and anxiety, the clutter in the mind is greatly reduced, thereby allowing the child to learn how to focus and concentrate. My hypnosis will have exercises designed to teach the child to focus and concentrate naturally and easily. See my exciting and helpful CD's.
